Can The Right Person Complete You?
You may recognize the following quote from the movie Jerry McGuire...
Jerry:"And now I just... I don't know...but our little company had a good night tonight. A really big night. But it wasn't complete, it wasn't nearly close to being in the same vicinity as complete, because I couldn't share it with you. I couldn't hear your voice, or laugh about it with you. I missed my wife. We live in a cynical world, and we work in a business of tough competitors, I love you. You complete me. And I just..."
Dorothy:"Shut up. Just shut up. You had me at hello."
In Jerry McGuire, a sports recruiter starts his own company with a woman who has a deep crush on him. At the end of the movie, after facing multiple challenges in his business and home life, Jerry finally realizes that this woman is the THING he needs to move forward. And he tells her, “You complete me.”
This has become a well recognized quote and a dating myth, all at the same time.
Believe it or not, there is not one person who can meet all your needs and essentially complete you.
In the first place you need more than one person in your life to meet all your needs. If you’re a woman, you know that the man in your life doesn’t want to hear all about every detail in your day and if you’re a guy you know that most women are not interested in watching every football, basketball or baseball game on television.
In the second place, you should be a complete person without anyone else. Another person may complement you, but don’t think that someone should complete you or that you aren’t a complete person without someone. That kind of thinking will get you in trouble. You’ll be tempted to engage with someone you don’t like in the long run because you think that without someone you’re less than what you could be.
The right person will drive you to become the best version of yourself that you can be, but you don’t need them to be complete.
It’s a great line from a fun movie - but it shouldn’t hold truth in your relationship!