It's important to remember that a divorce is a serious life event and that it may require a time to heal before you re-enter the dating scene.
It's hard for someone on the outside or someone who has never experienced a divorce to understand that you may not be ready to date right away. If you have recently gone through a divorce and your friends are urging you to get back into the dating scene but you just don't feel ready, don't be afraid to tell them that you need more time. They may think that you are being ridiculous but you are the only one who will truly know when you are ready to start dating again. Trust your own instincts and don't allow others to rush you back into the dating scene. On the other hand, don't let fear stop you either!
If you have children from your previous marriage, it is important to consider their feelings before starting to date again. Although you can't allow your children to prevent you from re-entering the dating scene ever, it is important to realize that they are also going through a difficult time and it may be necessary to wait a little longer than you had planned to help them work through their feelings and to understand that you are not trying to replace their other parent in their lives. Once both you and your children feel positive about you starting to date, it is acceptable to begin dating again.