• Listen to your feelings.

    Should you have contact with your ex-partner?

    If your former partner texts or calls saying, "Let's remain friends," after the break-up, take your time and decide whether or not you really want to do that.

    • They may call you a month later and invite you to meet for coffee. It's your decision. Are you ready to see them? Do you want to try to maintain "friendly" contact?

    • Do what feels comfortable for you. Frankly, what's best for you in such a complex situation is difficult to surmise. Follow your instincts.

    • Of course, if there was prior emotional or physical abuse in the relationship, saying "no" to future contact is likely the best choice.