4 Simple Keys To An Honest, Healthy New Relationship
"How should I open up to a new partner?"
"I don't know what to admit to my girlfriend."
"I'm terrified that my boyfriend won't approve of what I'll tell him."
"I am embarrassed at some things I did in my past. Help!"
Starting a new relationship can be frustratingly difficult.
It takes a lot of time and effort, especially at first.
Starting with a strong foundation of friendship and trust is goal #1.
A foundation built on honesty can mean the difference between a healthy relationship and a toxic one.
Remember these four keys to build an honest and healthy new relationship:
Share the reasons why your last relationship ended.
It's not only fair, but also important for your new dating partner to understand what caused the breakup of your last relationship. This is especially true if you're to blame. Your honesty and candidness will be appreciated.
Why did you breakup?
Discuss what you're looking for in this relationship.
Try not to paint a false picture of your expectations. Your new friend might feel flattered to hear that you see a "lifelong mate" in them, but be honest about wanting to take things slowly if that's where your head is.
What do you want?
Divulge your strengths and weaknesses.
It's natural to want to put your best foot forward when being courted by someone new, but the easiest way to lose that person's trust is to portray yourself as somebody you're not. Show a willingness to reveal your weaknesses, as well. Vulnerability goes a long way in inspiring the trust of others.
What are you good at? Bad at?
Avoid sacrificing your morals for love.
Even if you feel your new love interest is the biggest blessing, it's important to be honest about certain issues you can't tolerate or those that might be deal breakers.
What are your deal breakers?
The quicker you address potential problems in an honest way, the closer you'll be to building a strong, healthy relationship with your new partner.
Yes, honesty is the best policy.
If being honest doesn’t produce the desired results, it wasn't meant to be. Stand your ground and don’t settle for less than someone who will make you as happy as you make them.