How To Quickly Breakup From A Bad Or Unsatisfying Relationship
"How exactly do I breakup with someone?"
"I need to breakup but I don't know the best way to do it."
"How do I breakup without making her mad?"
"I have no idea the most painless way to breakup with someone."
You want out!
Regardless of the reason, you are anxious to breakup, take control of your life and move on.
You may have been feeling this way for weeks, months or in some cases YEARS.
I’m here to guide you on how to end your relationship as quick and as painless as possible so that you can get back out there and find yourself a more satisfying, rewarding relationship with someone new.
Keep in mind, breaking up will hurt and it may not be easy, but I am confident you can do it.
Follow these 7 steps to end your relationship.
Be sure about your decision to exit the relationship.
Give some thoughtful consideration to the reasons why you want to cut your connection with the person. When you go through the "whys" in your head, it will make it easier for you to move forward with a plan.
Are you sure?
What are your concerns about ending the relationship?
Perhaps you fear you won't have another relationship. Frankly, the chance of never having another relationship is highly unlikely.
What are your specific concerns?
Decide where and when the discussion will take place.
Select a location that's safe, quiet, and appropriate for the discussion. If you fear for your safety, seek professional advice about how to disengage from the relationship.
When and where will you do it?
Speak honestly and say you’re sorry.
Use a caring tone of voice and appropriate language as you share your intentions. For example:
How will you break the news?
Use polite language and avoid negative emotions.
Although you'll likely feel hurt and angry, watch your phrasing. Rather than, "You never…" or "You always…" start with, "I am unhappy because we don't spend enough time together" or "I feel like my friends and family aren't welcome in our home."
Can you be on your best behavior?
Observe your partner’s reaction and listen.
Your partner may feel like sharing their own feelings, so be ready to listen. When they finish speaking, say briefly, "I'm sorry I've hurt you." However, stay focused on your desired result to end the relationship.
What are your partner's remarks?
Refrain from prolonging the discussion.
Avoid getting pulled into an argument. State succinctly your plan to exit the relationship and a few brief reasons why. Then, share your timeline. "After this discussion, I'm going back to the house to get my things together to leave today."
How brief can you make it?
Ending a relationship is downright difficult.
Even one that is bad or unsatisfying!
However, your life will get better when you take control and make decisions that are right for you.
In your gut, you know what the right decision is.
Embrace this change and move forward.