It happens a lot!

The first tip for dealing with cold feet is simply to relax and realize that this happens to a lot of people in your situation. This is important because many people will get caught up in believing that these feelings mean that they shouldn't go through with their wedding. Realizing that your feelings are completely normal will help to waylay your fears.

Make a list of all your fears.

Seeing your concerns listed on paper helps to alleviate them.

You may find some fears illogical. You may find others you want to discuss with your partner, which in turn will help you relax.

Write all your fears and concerns down and look at them.

Why do you love your partner?

Think of and make a list of all the reasons why you love your partner. You're getting married to someone you truly love - at least you should be! Bringing to mind those positive feelings will help flood you with joy whenever you start to feel anxious or nervous. Think about:

• All the ways he or she has shown you that they love you.
• A trait of theirs that you really cherish.
• All of the things you have in common.

Talk to your partner about your feelings.

Many people are hesitant to this because they are embarrassed about their feelings but talking to your loved one can really help in this situation. Chances are that they know you better than anyone and can assist you working through these things. They may even confess similar feelings which helps you to realize that cold feet are completely natural.

Talk to a married friend.

Talk to someone who is married and get their perspective. They will be able to assure you that they had similar feelings of anxiety and that there is no cause for concern.

Get spiritually calm.

You don't have to be religious to be spiritual. Being spiritual just involves getting in touch with your inner strength and drawing on that to take you through challenges.

• Spend some time with a spiritual leader. This can be someone who shares your faith. Or perhaps talk to a friend or family member whose advice you trust and radiates peace.
  
  
• Meditate in the privacy of your bedroom or a luxurious, relaxing bath. You can also find peace and contentment meditating outdoors surrounded by the sights, sounds, and smells of nature. Connect with your inner self. From that connection you'll be able to build your confidence and quell any doubts.

Laugh.

Yes, laugh!

Never underestimate the power of laughter.

When you laugh, your body releases stress-fighting substances. Laughter helps you relax and release tension. Call a friend with a great sense of humor and tell them that you need a little perspective on your big day. Check out a comedy show or a funny movie. Whatever you choose to help you laugh, fully engage with it.

Go through old photos of you and your partner.

This can help to ease the anxiety of cold feet. Looking through pictures from your courtship is a great way to remind you of all the fun times you and your partner have had together and will help you realize that there are still lots of fun times together in store for the two of you.

Listen to soothing music.

You may be surprised at how effective relaxing music can be at soothing anxiety. Whether you listen to mellow instrumentals or down-tempo jazz, the result will be the same. You'll notice how much more relaxed you are after listening to gentle music in a quiet place.

Spend some time away from the planning process.

Wedding anxiety is often spurred on by other problems such as the stresses of the wedding planning. This stress can put you on edge and make problems seem bigger than they really are. Take a trip to spa or spend an afternoon participating in an activity you enjoy to take your mind off of all the details that are still remaining for a little while.

Soak in a lavender bath.

If curing those pre-wedding jitters means drawing yourself a lavender bath every time you feel antsy, just do it! Lavender is proven to have calming effects. Try soaking in a moderately warm, herb-infused bath for about fifteen minutes. It'll help melt those jitters away!