Being Abused? What You Can Do About Domestic Violence.

With domestic violence & abuse against both women and children in the spotlight, I wanted to take this opportunity to start a thread on what you can do and how you can get help.

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  • Signs Of Reproductive Coercion:

    • Refusing to use a condom or other type of birth control
    • Breaking or removing a condom during intercourse
    • Lying about their methods of birth control (ex. lying about having a vasectomy, lying about being on the pill)
    • Refusing to "pull out" if that is the agreed upon method of birth control
    • Forcing you to not use any birth control (ex. the pill, condom, shot, ring, etc.)
    • Removing birth control methods (ex. rings, IUDs, contraceptive patches)
    • Sabotaging birth control methods (ex. poking holes in condoms, tampering with pills or flushing them down the toilet)
    • Withholding finances needed to purchase birth control
    • Monitoring your menstrual cycles
    • Forcing pregnancy and not supporting your decision about when or if you want to have a child
    • Forcing you to get an abortion, or preventing you from getting one
    • Threatening you or acting violent if you don't comply with their wishes to either end or continue a pregnancy
    • Continually keeping you pregnant (getting you pregnant again shortly after you give birth)

    Reproductive coercion can also come in the form of pressure, guilt and shame from an abusive partner.

    Go to this page: The National Domestic Violence Hotline: Reproductive Coercion

    • Signs Of Financial Abuse:

      • Giving an allowance and closely watching how you spend it or demanding receipts for purchases
      • Placing your paycheck in their bank account and denying you access to it
      • Preventing you from viewing or having access to bank accounts
      • Forbidding you to work or limiting the hours that you can work
      • Maxing out credit cards in your name without permission or not paying the bills on credit cards, which could ruin your credit score
      • Stealing money from you or your family and friends
      • Using funds from children's savings accounts without your permission
      • Living in your home but refusing to work or contribute to the household
      • Making you give them your tax returns or confiscating joint tax returns
      • Refusing to give you money to pay for necessities/shared expenses like food, clothing, transportation, or medical care and medicine

      Go to this page: The National Domestic Violence Hotline: Financial Abuse

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