Your mind can find the solution to nearly any challenge, but the challenge must be clear and consistent. A great first step is to take a piece of paper and write, "My Perfect Mate" at the top.

• Now think back and remember every person you've ever met of the appropriate gender and make a list of every specific quality you've ever been attracted to.
• The people that come to mind might not even be those you particularly liked, but maybe you were entranced by their sense of humor. Maybe it was someone else's parenting skills.
• Simply list the best qualities of all those you've ever met. You'll likely end up with a list of 25-40 items. Your list is probably entirely different from anyone else's and might contain items like these:
  Extremely loving: Rachael from junior year in high school
  Happy all the time: Mike from work at Cove Tavern
  Honest: Bobbi from 10th grade biology class
• Make a list that really inspires and excites you. The more desirable the list, the more likely you are to hang in there until you're successful.

What are you looking for?

It's extremely difficult to accomplish anything worthwhile without a goal. Great things don't happen by accident. That's why they're called 'accidents.' Your goal should read similarly to this: "On or before (target date), I will have found my perfect partner and entered into a relationship with him."

What is your goal?

We've all set goals and then forgotten all about them 2 days later. You must reinforce your goal on a daily basis to maintain the priority. Use these 2 processes:

• Read your goal and your list of attributes aloud every morning and night. That's pretty easy. Just read it.
• Write an end-point success image: approximately half a page describing the experience of having just achieved your goal. Record what you see, think, hear, smell, and feel. This image should be highly desirable to you. Do this every day.

How will you reinforce your goal every day?

By reinforcing your goal each day, you brain will start to present subtle suggestions to you. 

• If you're suddenly thinking about joining an online dating site or signing up for salsa lessons, go for it!
•  If you don't follow any of the suggestions from your subconscious, it's likely to stop giving suggestions.

Will you be open to new things?

If you desire a woman that's in fantastic shape and very stylish, consider your own situation. It might be easier to attract such a woman if you weren't 75 pounds overweight and sporting a $7 haircut. Work on developing whatever qualities will help you to attract the type of person you desire.

• It's not like you have to be spectacular, but take care of yourself and get your life in order.
• When you leave the house, ask yourself if you're dressed appropriately for running into your perfect partner. Always be prepared!

How will you hold up your end?

It's very difficult to find your perfect partner if you're not spending time with those who could be your perfect partner. Get out there and socialize!

Where can you meet people?